My youngest of 6 children, David, is now nearly 4 years old. I want to show you a part of a recent letter we received from a GP regarding David, so you can get an idea of what he has:

“David was noted at birth to have a hairy lump at the top of his skull. He had brain imaging at around 1 year of age and this suggested that the lump was an atretic meningocele. It also showed agenesis of the corpus callosum, some abnormal collections of nerve cells in one part of the brain and abnormal position of some of the large brain veins.

David has significant development delay and hypotonia. His general health has been good.

In summary, David has evidence of abnormal neural tube closure (the atretic meningocele) and abnormal brain development (agenesis of the corpus callosum, neuronal heterotopia, abnormal anatomy of the tentorium and abnormal anatomy of large brain veins).”

Now, I did not actually realize how much of an impact such a statement could have on a parent until I received this letter, which is almost 3 years after these initial tests and diagnosis was done. All those words are quite long and scary and would suggest a handicapped child at the very least.

However, I paint a different picture. Although he can not speak the way other 4 year old’s can; although he can not walk quite the same way other 4 year old’s can; for some reason, he still understands me.

For example, even way back before he was two years of age, he fully understood the word ‘no’. To illustrate this, I was watching my wife play netball, and minding David at the same time (this is before David was even two). As there were other kids and plenty of noise, I let him walk around a bit. At any time he got too close to the court, I said ‘no’, and he would simply stop and turn around. After a few times, he learned not to even get too close. A simple example of a child learning something.

At the same time another child who would have at least been 4 if not 5 was uncontrollable. This child was your typical 4 or 5 year old when it came to talking and walking (well, more like running around and screaming), and nothing the parents did or say would stop this child. The child had no respect for the parents, and it was obvious the parents didn’t care about this fact one bit either.

There is no excuse for not giving your child both discipline and love, and I don’t believe you can have one without the other. On the other hand, it can be quite easy for parents with a child who is obviously a lot slower in their development, and has risks of long term neural issues, to be wrapping them up in cotton wool and even throwing things like discipline out the window…but not me, no way! And I’ll tell you why.

Kids need discipline no matter what because not only does help them with structure, guidance, boundaries and building inner strength, it demonstrates something about the parents too. Kids are going to imitate the parents regardless of their learning abilities, and if you are not firm, how on earth can that help them. You are the shining light for your children, the guidance, the god, the highway, the map, the example, the hero, the inspiration, and all parents should realize this.

Our kids need us more than ever right now and it is high time we pulled ourselves out of this dependant mind set and stop blaming the world for our problems. I don’t care if Obama is the saviour, why on earth do we need saving anyway? Because we have become too dependant on others for our well being and we are teaching our children to do the same thing.

I hope this inspires you to rethink the way you look at life if you feel like you need saving.

All the best
Dean

Positive Thoughts and the Law of Attraction are two things that naturally go hand in hand. This is a concept that I have never really understood. Of course I knew that by having positive thoughts, then the laws of the Universe would allow positive things to happen to me. That’s fine and it makes sense. But the problem was that I had never really found success. At least not to the level that I wanted it to be. I had been punching away at strategy after strategy, trying to make a success of myself, but nothing ever really clicked. The pressure that I was putting on myself to succeed was so great that I thought it would never happen. These types of Negative Thoughts then just brought me down and down and before I knew it, I was feeling depressed and was ready to give up. I just couldn’t be bothered to do anything about it.

I could see that the problem was caused by my emotions and I knew that the only way to get out of this spiraling depression was by reprogramming my mind. I was completely at the affect of my emotions and it was rapidly turning into a vicious circle.

I guess it was something like this:

• NEGATIVE EMOTIONS

• CREATED NEGATIVE THOUGHTS

• CREATED NEGATIVE ACTIONS

• CREATED NEGATIVE EVENTS

• CREATED  MORE NEGATIVE EMOTIONS

So when I looked at this process and understood how it worked, it became blindingly obvious to me that by the laws of Yin and Yang and Every Action Having An Equal And Opposite Reaction, I thought that if it works with negative thoughts then it should also work with Positive Thoughts. By starting with Positive Thoughts, I would start to take Positive Action and this would eventually lead to Positive Results. Positive Results makes me feel really good and so the cycle starts again. Snowballing into a sequence or Lifetime of Success. By the natural Law Of Attraction, I am creating my own success. I guess the sequence should really look like this:

• POSITIVE THOUGHTS

• CREATE MORE POSITIVE EMOTIONS

• CREATES POSITIVE EVENTS

• CREATES POSITIVE ACTIONS

• PRODUCES MORE POSITIVE THOUGHTS

I often wonder what makes some people “LUCKY” and others “UNLUCKY”. A lot of people have said to me over the years that I am one of those “lucky people” and that “good things always happen to me“. Well now I beg to differ. I now realize that it is our Positive Thoughts and our belief in the Natural Law of Attraction, that create our “Luck”. I’m not one of the lucky ones. I’ve just learnt the process of Reprogramming the Mind For Success.

Positive Thoughts, lead to Positive Actions, which produce Positive Results.

Yours sincerely,

Stuart Ginbey

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One of the things I explain in my new and upcoming book (current program owners will receive this free as an upgrade) is the organic cycle within us all, the name I give to the process by which we are kept in our comfort zones. I realized how the process was almost a mirror image of the machine.

In summary, the organic cycle involves three main systems, the brain, the body and the senses and how they interact through the use of smaller systems within each of these main three. The machine is the same in that it involves three main systems, the fuel, the mechanical process or purpose and the operations.

If we look at each of the three main systems for people and machines we can draw some interesting parallels.

First of all, we can look at the mechanical purpose of a machine. It doesn’t matter what machine you use, whether it’s a coffee machine or a crane, it has a primary purpose that is mechanical in nature. This mechanical process however must be put in motion by some sort of trigger, whether it is by humans using switches and levers or from senses that sense that a mechanical process needs to be put in motion (i.e. the air conditioner and the thermostat). Then we have the fuel that all machines need in order to run be it electricity, gas, oil etc.

So let’s look at the human being and the organic cycle.

We are almost purely mechanical by nature. That is, we react to things in life with behaviours where the behaviour itself (the reaction) is triggered by the event, and the same events always cause the same reactions. This in itself makes it very hard to deny our mechanical nature. But don’t be alarmed, it is a survival mechanism built into us.

Then we have our senses which we can clearly see are part of the triggering process (although not all of it which you’ll learn shortly). Through our eyes, ears, nose etc, we process the environment and react accordingly.

So the difference here between a coffee machine and us, is simply that a coffee machine has one mechanical process, and we have many, and the coffee machine has switches and we have senses.

So let’s look at the fuel.

Well for us the fuel is emotions. Some may think that motivation and drive etc are the fuel but not from the point of view of organic cycle, it is emotions that fuel the organic cycle, the comfort zone, for emotions are simply chemical reactions involving the brain (the producer) and the body (the receiver), and this completes the organic cycle.

When we curse at someone in traffic (just as an example) we are reacting in a mechanical way to an event picked up through our senses that triggers the emotions to fuel the behaviour, and we do this all day every day.

Now let me go one step deeper. If we return to the machine, the machine only operates for as long as it is needed to operate, and what I ask you determines this? Motivation and drive! Machines are operated for the purpose of creating a benefit to the user, and that is us. Whether it is for the satisfaction of a great cup of coffee or from the profits made from building a skyscraper, it is all the same. There is a benefit to be had and the more a machine is run, the more benefit is being had.

And where is the parallel here for us beings? It is addiction! For our organic cycle, our comfort zone, our personalities, our beliefs, our results in life, our reactions and our behaviours are all motivated by addiction, and the addictions are to our emotions, or to be more precise, the chemicals produced in the brain that create these emotions and hence feelings (the feelings are the product of the body receiving the chemicals).

Now a machine does not become addicted to its fuel, so there the similarity ends, but the operator of the machine has a very real motive, and so do our addictions to our emotions. I said earlier that the senses are only part of the triggering process, because our addictions are a major factor in triggering reactions. For example, someone who always appears irate is subconsciously and constantly seeking events to fuel the addiction to the chemicals produced from being irate. If the senses can’t find it in the immediate environment, the next step is to trigger memories that will do the same job as memories will trigger emotions.

If we want to create a more fulfilling life we have to step back and observe our reactions and see them for what they are, simply addictions. We are running around trying to make a cup of coffee using a crane or a photocopier and it simply will not work. We are using the wrong mechanical processes and emotions in our everyday lives because we are not aware of what is motivating them in the first place. If you want to have an enjoyable day, does it really serve you to curse all and sundry when you stub your toe as soon as you get out of bed?

Visit our home page at www.reprogrammingthemind.com if you haven’t already and get our free ebook, video and 6 part series on the science behind the law of attraction. If you have already gone through this then you might want to consider purchasing our program at www.reprogrammingthemind.com/Course.html. Our program and online group and forum are two major tools to help you use the right processes to creating a more successful life rather than being run like a machine.

To your success

Dean

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WOW. What an awesome meditation this one is. This week we are focusing on Emotions in Mindfullness Meditation which I have to say is one of my favorite topics. Once again we are concerned with our breathing and body position, but this time I had to ask myself how I am feeling. At first I recognized that I was feeling sadness which was such a strong emotion. But I wanted to look to see if there was anything else there. And there was. There was a part of me that was happy as well. The thing is, it depended which emotion I was focusing on, which then dictated my mood. This may sound a little strange, but let me explain a bit more. So where was I?

I was sitting in a 3rd class sleeper carriage on a train that must have been built in the 1960’s. I’m on Sakhalin Island in Eastern Russia and I’m trying to get to the north of the Island. It’s 3am and I can’t sleep so I decide that now would be a great time to meditate. So, I sit up check my posture and begin to breathe. At first I am overcome by sadness. I’m on the other side of the world from the United Kingdom and I really miss my family already. My beautiful wife and 3 lovely children are all at home wondering why I have to go away for another six weeks. Then the conversations start. Why am I doing this, I should be at home, 5 days to get to work is rediculous, I’m so tired already and I haven’t even started work yet. My mind was wondering all over the place, but as soon as I became aware of it, I would come back to my breathing again. And this is where I was able to notice a different emotion. When I really thought about it (which I probably shouldn’t have been doing because that is a distraction in itself) I realized, “hey, take a look at where you are right now”. Your traveling all over the world, I have an exciting job, I’m providing for my family and at the end of the day, life is pretty good. It could certainly be a lot worse.Yet I find it so easy to dwell on the negative influences of my life. Surely, this little meditation session is a great introduction to the power of emotions and how they affect my outlook on life. Hmmm.

So is this one of the important parts of reprogramming my mind for success? Recognizing my emotions and focusing on the ones that benefit me the most. I wonder?????

I cant wait for the next session. This is so good.

Until then, take care.

Yours sincerely,

Stuart Ginbey

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One of my daughters has a turtle, and one day while watching her swim around the aquarium, I noticed her want to get out or to go beyond the glass walls. The back glass wall has a picture of green underwater plants, however the picture only takes up some of the wall, and as the turtle reached the edge of the picture, I could sense her desire to go around the edge and beyond, as if the edge of the picture was actually a corner.

It got me thinking about the other animals we have. One of my other daughters has a blue fish; we have a dog and also three chickens. All of these pets live within physical boundaries, from which they can’t really escape. The chickens have the ability to fly out if they really wanted to, and on two occasions one of them has, only to want to get back in to the pen knowing that this is where its food is. Our dog has also had many chances to run away (thanks to kids leaving gates open etc), and every time she has come back.

With all of our pets, it is our duty to keep their needs met, with food, water, a clean environment and tending loving care. I realized that when given the chance, although some of them could leave permanently, their ‘needs’ and the security of always having those needs met, was the main driver behind their actions.

But watching the turtle made me also realize, that we have effectively domesticated what are essentially wild creatures, and regardless of their need for security, there is still that part of them that craves just that little bit more freedom to explore. Wild creatures do not have physical boundaries, only mental ones. In the wild, and I mean complete wild where no human intervention exists, the boundaries of creatures are created by their own instincts, not those of some other force.

It pains me to say this, but we humans are trapped within a mental boundary that is not of an instinctual nature, but of a conditioned need for security. Just as we have conditioned our own pets to accept smaller boundaries in exchange for security, we as humans have accepted a life of mediocrity and monotony in exchange for security and having our needs met.

We do not bump our heads into a glass wall thinking that what we just saw was a corner we could go around; instead we live within a mental boundary that is our comfort zone, and any attempts to move out are met with anxiety, doubt and fear of the unknown, ridicule, and a fear that our security may not be there tomorrow if we venture too far out. There are people who are happy with this, there are those who are not happy but accept it, and there are those who do not accept it. The majority of people are those that are not happy with it, but accept it, not really knowing what it is or why it is this way.

Some people believe that there are people in higher positions of power who control the rest of the population, that they know how to create this mental boundary through education, TV, news, laws and politics. Whether this is true or not is irrelevant, for all you have to do is ask yourself this question. ‘Is my current life based on needs or wants?’ Do you need your job, your TV, the News at 6, the mortgage payment, the car payments, the gossip at work, the arguments, the drugs, the computer games, entertainment and so on? Are many of these needs things you do to escape life, not realizing that they are the reason you are trapped? Are many of these needs the reason why you can’t spare your self the time and motivation to do anything else with your life, to do what you really should be doing to get out of your comfort zone and really live life like the wild, curious, explorer you really are?

There are many reasons why most people will continue to live within this mental conditioned cage because they know no better, the answers to breaking free are not readily available, they fear the unknown, they fear ridicule, they fear losing their security, or they believe these needs are helping them escape reality. For many who may have even been presented with some of the answers, their needs have become all too powerful that they are too time strapped or mentally drained to do anything about it.

All it takes is a small amount of your time a day to explore your own inner and outer world, and as you start to do this you open the door to many things such as opportunity, awareness and knowledge, all of which go hand in hand with freedom, and you find your addictions to your needs and security lose their grip on you and you break free from the confines of the conditioned mental cage.

To your success

Dean

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Week 1 – Session 2
Listened to 1 hr Introduction mp3
Results: I found tonight’s meditation quite painful. Rather than laying down, which I did on my previous session, I decided to follow the instruction’s and meditate in the sitting position. Concentrating on posture became quite difficult and really high-lighted how much I slouch. This pain became a distraction in itself and I often found myself focusing on how sore my back was. I was sitting on my bed and on the edge of a cushion, so that my knees were pointed down and a slight curve in my lower back. My back and neck were straight, with relaxed shoulder’s that were pulled back. I had a pillow on my lap to raise my hands so that they were closer to my breathing “home base” and I sat with my finger tips touching together forming a circle. Once again I found my mind wandering, but this time it was easier to notice it and bring myself back to my breathing. Something that I am really noticing is how difficult it is for me to focus on one thing for 15 minutes. It sounds crazy, but my mind just wants to be doing 10 different things all at the same time. This obviously creates distractions and makes it difficult to focus on the task at hand.

Yours sincerely,

Stuart Ginbey

What most people do not realize is that when we become addicted to a drug – be it nicotine, alcohol, caffeine, or heroin – it is our cells that become addicted. A physical addiction. Take away the drug and it’s our cells that are screaming out for more. And here’s the reason why. Our brain releases a chemical called ‘Dopamine’ as a reward for doing something pleasurable, be it sex, eating, winning, etc. When you do something that makes you feel good within yourself, your body is experiencing a rush of dopamine and you get the feeling of being happy. Dopamine is no different from any other artificial chemical or drug.  Take away the habit and your body will respond by doing what is necessary to get it back to it’s comfort zone.
If you attempt to change your eating habits, for example, you are not going to receive your dopamine rush because the foods you were eating before made you feel good where as the new foods do not and this is where the cravings start.

Overcoming a habit be it chemical (cells) or behavioural (neural pathways), requires an understanding of what is going on in your mind and body. The process that is going on was created to keep you alive and comfortable. As soon as you stray from it, you know it.
The good news is that those willing to accept this and work with it – and not against it – will see massive changes in their lives.

Yours sincerely,

Stuart Ginbey